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Some advice needed for an extremely inexperienced guy

This will be long, please bear with me.

I am a 23 year old guy who has absolutely no experience with girls beyond friendship, like seriously, none, not even a hug. I am a decent looking guy so I chalk this up to several causes. lack of exposure/options, late to the game, and extreme introversion.

First off, lack of exposure. I am in a male dominated field and am in male dominated hobbies. Forestry management major. Hobbies include, everything outdoorsy, from hunting to back country skiing. All of these seem to have very few girls. Even my guy friends say I am too outdoorsy for them most of the time, leading me to do everything alone. My social life is a small group that is extremely tight, we only really hang out with each other, and not often anymore. It is hard to break into new groups or to find someone to add to mine. When I finish college this year, my options will reduce even more due to my job taking me to a remote town.

Late to the game. I am a christian and every christian girl my age is married it seems. It seems like I have missed the boat and potentially missed the train that takes you to the boat. I have reached the age where having absolutely no experience is becoming an amber flag.

Extreme introversion. I am NOT socially awkward or anti social. I in fact love social gatherings and meeting people. Its just that it sometimes takes me weeks to recharge my social batteries. I am generally perfectly happy alone or with a single every close friend. This further limits my lack of exposure.

People are usually surprised when they ask about my girlfriend and they find out that I am single. I am told that I would make a great husband or that “I just figured a guy like you was married”.

I have tried many things.

“Dont look for a relationship/be desperate, it will come when you least expect it.” – Thats how I ended up here. I lived my life though my first few years of college and would say that I have lived a pretty good one. I dont want to sound like I have a large ego, but I really do have no regrets and have lived life to the fullest.

Online – nothing, no likes, matches or messages. I have had profiles reviewed and created by friends and reddit (other accounts).

Therapy – I have been to a therapist in the past and all I got out of it was “Some people are meant to be alone, we can work on ways for you to accept it”

Friends – Friends/family etc have tried to set me up, but that has never led to a date.

So my questions stands. What would you recommend to a guy who is going into a final semester of school and is hungry for a companion, to do to try to change my dating life for the better. Essentially something needs to change, but I dont know what.

Thank you.

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